He is "playing family" with you which is unfair to you and to your son. Why are you allowing him to sleep over even if it is in a separate bedroom? If he's just a friend, you'd see him occasionally as a friend, but playing house is more. I think he's wasting your time and taking away any opportunities you could have to develop a relationship with a real potential partner. Of course, he must care about you on a certain level and you enjoy being around each other. He is being guarded and may be afraid of getting hurt, so by being with you like this, he gets the comfort of family without the responsibility. How about discussing this with him? Be understanding, but hold your ground. Tell him you care for him but can't spend family time with him if you are not a couple. Give him some space and don't let him continue to waste your time and confuse your son.
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I have been spending time with a man who says we are just friends and he is no interested in a relashionship with me ever. Now he stays at my house several nights a week in a seperate bedroom, cooks for me and my son, always wants to be around me yet continualy says to me he will never be interested in me as a girlfriend. I keep feeling he sends me mixed messages yet I feel like a fool. Is he using me for some strange need for comfort.
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