Well-meaning married friends and family are always offering (useless) advice about where to meet someone….and express how remiss you are by not taking their advice.
What do they know, they haven’t been “out there” for years don’t understand how scary and vulnerable it can be. They have suggested getting a dog and meeting men walking it, taking a French class, joining a gym, trying internet dating, doing volunteer work, joining the jogging club, striking up conversations in the produce section in the grocery store, taking up bridge, going to a cigar bar, taking a singles cruise, etc, etc and so forth and so on.
Then you feel like a failure for not doing any of these things because you simply don’t have the time or the emotional bandwidth to deal with it!
Then your life stays in a vicious cycle of busyness without branching out. It’s all so overwhelming, so you do…nothing.
Here’s some good advice that works with our clients…just pick one small, manageable thing to change and do it for a month, then if it’s not bringing enough results, try another one for a month. Then you can actually break things down into small, manageable pieces. We have seen it work with countless clients!
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