In fact Susan and I see this phenomenon almost everyday in our matchmaking business. We get gung-ho clients ready to start yesterday and excited to jump right in. Great, right?
Then the very same clients will suddenly be impossible to reach when we have a terrific guy for them, or the guy will call them and they won't return his call for 2 weeks, or not schedule a date for 6 weeks and all together be too busy and impossible to pin down.
We are not judging them, we understand them. But it still begs the question: why does this happen?
Firstly, it is perfectly normal and healthy and ok to feel both at the same time. Having said that, why does that person who was so excited suddenly pull in and hide like a tortoise?
You know why? It's easy to feel ready and willing, but when faced with potentially connecting with or perhaps being rejected by another human being is very scary so it's easier to back away by throwing up road blocks the perhaps will keep you safe, but alone.
How about acknowledging that it's ok to be ready…and not...but the difference to success is acting despite being afraid… and who knows ultimately something will click and gung-ho can take over for good.
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